# Relatietherapie in Amsterdam > Anlacan Tran ## Posts - [Why your brain sometimes sees danger that might not really be there](https://anlacan.com/why-your-brain-might-sometimes-see-danger-that-might-not-really-be-there/): Imagine you’re walking through a dark alley at night. Suddenly, you see something move. Your heart starts racing… but it turns out to be just a plastic bag in the wind. You breathe a sigh of relief.This ‘overestimation of danger’ happens more quickly when we’re scared, or when we’re alert. Perhaps because you’re walking through a shady part of town, or because it’s nighttime rather than daytime.  When we’re alert, we’ll more easily make the ‘mistake’ of interpreting a neutral cue as a dangerous cue. This is because our brain is mainly programmed to keep us alive. In terms of survival, it’s better to misinterpret something… - [Online EFT relationship therapy for polyamorous, ambiamorous, or monogamous people.](https://anlacan.com/online-eft-relationship-therapy-for-polyamorous-ambiamorous-or-monogamous-people/) - [Behoeften en grenzen herkennen in seks met Betty Martin's wheel of consent](https://anlacan.com/behoeften-en-grenzen-herkennen-in-seks-met-betty-martins-wheel-of-consent/): Als je seks hebt, ben je dan meer gericht op jezelf, of op de ander? Maak je je zoveel zorgen om wat de ander denkt of voelt (“zijn kaak doet nu vast al pijn… hij is daar beneden al lang genoeg bezig.”), dat je zelf niet meer kunt ontspannen? Of voel je zoveel verantwoordelijkheid voor het genot van de ander (“ik moet ervoor zorgen dat zij klaarkomt, anders heb ik gefaald”), dat je er niet eens aan toekomt om jezelf te vragen wat jíj echt wilt? Seks kan beladen zijn, en is vaak omringd met onuitgesproken verwachtingen, ideeën, angsten, behoeftes… - [Relationship therapy in Amsterdam for expats](https://anlacan.com/relationship-therapy-in-amsterdam-for-expats/): Living and working in another country is an adventure not everybody gets to experience. It’s amazing to take a deep-dive into another culture, observing the subtle and not so subtle differences between your home country and your new home country. It has a way of enriching both worlds. It can also be challenging, for all the reasons that you already know. Especially on relationships, living abroad, perhaps not speaking the local language well and isolated from known family and friends, can take its toll. You and your partner already took on this journey together. Whether you’re both in the same… - [Polyamory / ethical non-monogamy](https://anlacan.com/polyamory-ethical-non-monogamy/): It’s quite likely that if you’re currently in an ethical non-monogamous relationship, or if you are considering being in one, you’ve been through quite a journey already. With very few exceptions, most of us are brought up with the narrative that romantic love should be between two people, and only between two people. Anything else is wrong. Anything else means your partner doesn’t really love you, or means you’re an evil, selfish person, and so on. Lots of people therefore don’t come to the realization that a relationship can indeed be constructed differently, until they suddenly find themselves in a… - [Waarom het alleen oplossen van problemen niet genoeg is om een relatie te redden](https://anlacan.com/waarom-het-oplossen-van-problemen-alleen-niet-genoeg-is-om-een-relatie-te-redden/): Het is geen makkelijk proces. Een schril contrast met de verliefdheid die je in het begin voelde. De vlinders in je buik, het gevoel dat de hele wereld vol mogelijkheden is. Het leven dat je vervolgens samen opbouwt, het vertrouwen dat je elkaar geeft, en de hoop die je koestert voor de toekomst. Het is verschrikkelijk wanneer je merkt dat er iets niet meer goed voelt. Dat de ruzies steeds meer oplopen en jullie continue tegen dezelfde dingen aan botsen. Je voelt je vaker alleen, of benauwd. Vraagt je af of dit het nou is. Raakt uitgeput. Een relatie die… - [Hoe lang duurt relatietherapie?](https://anlacan.com/hoe-lang-duurt-relatietherapie/): Voordat mensen beginnen met relatietherapie, vragen veel mensen zich af hoe lang het proces precies duurt. Hoeveel sessies moet je nemen? Hoe lang voordat het beter zal gaan? Je voorstellen dat het misschien nog maandenlang duurt voordat het beter zal gaan, is geen fijne gedachte. Vooral niet als je aan het eind van je Latijn bent. Het liefst hadden mensen dat de pijn gisteren al was opgehouden, laat staan nog een half jaar. Het antwoord op ‘hoe lang duurt relatietherapie’, is voor ieder stel anders. Het gemiddelde ligt tussen de 20 en 30 sessies voor de methode die ik toepas… - [What is EFT couples therapy (Emotionally Focused Therapy)?](https://anlacan.com/what-is-eft-couples-therapy/): In therapy world, emotionally focused couple therapy is seen more and more as the method for relationship therapy. And for good reason: it has the best results of any couple therapy. It has been empirically proven that EFT moves 70-75% of couples from distress to recovery, while another 15% experiences at least an improvement in their relationship.* Evidence shows that these positive effects last over time. These results are unprecedented, and it is because with EFT you go to the heart of the matter. But what actually is EFT? Here are four key points of this form of therapy: 1.… - [Why we must learn how to 'fail'](https://anlacan.com/failure-is-inherent-to-success/): …Failure is inherent to success. They’re not opposites. One is a precursor to the other, or one might even say they are the same thing. Most of our educational system is set up to believe that we should do things in one go. “Here is something you should study. Everyone gets the same amount of information, regardless of what your starting level is, and everyone should get more than 60% right. Otherwise you fail the test.” You can re-do the test once, but then everybody already knows you ‘failed the first time’. No wonder we have so many people suffering from… ## Pages - [Privacy policy](https://anlacan.com/privacy-policy/): Dit is de Privacy Policy (het Privacy Beleid of statement) van Praktijk Anlacan Tran, ingeschreven bij de Kamer van Koophandel onder nummer 74126229. Door het gebruiken van de Website (www.anlacan.com) begrijpt u en gaat u akkoord met het verzamelen en gebruiken van informatie in overeenstemming met deze Privacy Policy. Onze Privacy Policy is van toepassing op alle bezoekers, gebruikers en alle anderen die de toegang hebben tot de Website (“Gebruikers). Tevens is dit beleid van toepassing op het omgaan met de gegevens van onze cliënten en relaties. Wat voor gegevens worden er verzameld? Als u gebruiker bent van de site worden… - [Anlacan.com - online relatietherapie](https://anlacan.com/) - [FAQ](https://anlacan.com/faqs/) - [Your therapist](https://anlacan.com/about-me/): Many therapists I have met come from a place where they have experienced firsthand the pain that miscommunication and the lack of connection can cause, and I am not an exception to that. My parents, after having fled injustice and war in their home country of Vietnam, found themselves challenged by the difficulties of integrating into a new culture in the Netherlands. The coexistence of both their unfaltering love, and the generational pain they carried with them and over to their children, seemed dissonant to me at a young age – while as I grew up I understood that these… - [Blog](https://anlacan.com/blog/) - [Fees and policies](https://anlacan.com/fees-and-policies/): In most cases relationship therapy is no longer reimbursed by Dutch health insurance. When relationship therapy is a part of the treatment for DSM-diagnosed disorders for one or both partners, you might have a chance of reimbursement. Sometimes it is also possible to deduct (relationship) therapy from your income tax when you are self-employed. Please consult your accountant about this possibility. I do not work with health insurance companies, and the cost of therapy is at your own expense. The advantage of this is that you do not need permission from the health insurance company or doctor, there will be… - [Therapy](https://anlacan.com/therapie/): Individual therapyThe quality of our relationships, and what we have experienced in relation to others, can immensely influence our wellbeing. Feeling stuck and not knowing where to go can drain all our energy and deprive us of our everyday joy in life. With therapy we can create more space to look at events that happened or are happening in your life. We can go to the heart of the matter together and approach emotions that might seem overwhelming. Together, we can help you regain a sense of balance and confidence. We’ll create space for you to heal, and to be… [comment]: # (Generated by Hostinger Tools Plugin)